Who is the boss in our house? I am…I am the boss in our house…oopps, this is when it comes only to the things inside our house, the paint color, what furniture to buy, where to put this and that, etc. I am the artistic one so Rhonnel let me decide when it comes to matters like that. But when it is about the appliances and techy stuffs like sound system and computer, the decision is all his because I do not know much about these things but still he is consulting me before he buys one most especially if it is a little pricey. We talk about financial, family matters and things concerning RJ, and always come up with mutual decisions. In short, our house has two bosses.
Some of our neighbors are teasing Rhonnel “tigas” (tiga-laba, tiga-saing, etc.) when he is helping me with the laundry. What they do not know is it is our joint decision to share the household chores. He helps me with the laundry, he cleans the electric fans, aircon and bathroom and I clean the house, cook, wash the plates (though sometimes he is insisting on washing them), and iron the clothes. Yes, I see Rhonnel as “tigas” but in the real sense of the word, hard and might, my knight in shining armor. Some men do not understand that helping their wives with the chores will not make them a lesser man but instead they are showing their strength. For me, a man who is helping his wife is very brave to show how much he cares. He understands that sharing the work makes it easier for all, resulting to more bonding time that leads to a happier marriage and family.
Sharing responsibilities has a good impact on our children as it teaches them cooperation and good family values. It also help couples to learn from each other and improves their skills. Each couple has his and her capabilities, strengths and weaknesses so both should be the boss. Couple should work as a team and they should be equal whether they are in the bedroom or not.