Disciplining Your Child: Should Spanking be Omitted?

Have you been spanking your kids whenever they do something wrong? You might have experienced spanking during you childhood days and find it effective. You might have heard from your friends that they were not able to experience being spanked yet they find it effective as well and now you’re confused on which is the right thing to do.

First time parents would most likely apply what they experienced and the cycle goes on and on. Not unless, someone very influential would convince them to do otherwise.

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Child psychologists wouldn’t really recommend spanking as part of the disciplinary method and they are viewing it as unnecessary. According to some parents who don’t utilize spanking, the said act will just develop trauma. Punishment can be used to discipline children but it should not include inflicting pain. Some forms of punishments would be keeping them from their toys for a certain amount of time or perhaps not letting them watch the television or let them face the wall for several minutes. These are annoying activities and convincing enough as a punishment and most especially they don’t involve any pain.

On the other hand, one argues that if spanking would be included, points are more clarified. What the child did was not right and doing such thing comes with a painful price. Because there is pain, the wrong act isn’t going to be done again. Among other feelings, pain is being feared the most. It somehow develops an analysis that there is a limitation in everything and if you go beyond it, there would be an undesirable outcome and one of which is pain.

Both arguments have their points but the decision of including spanking in your disciplinary measures is still up to you. You can never tell which one is effective not unless you were able to try it.

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Negative Effects of Corporal Punishment to Children

I am a mother so I know how challenging it is to discipline a child. It is sometimes provoking and is frustrating most of the time. But is corporal punishment really necessary?

When I attended the Parenting.tv’s 2nd anniversary, one of the speakers is Ms. Vanessa Garon of Golden Values School and one of the topics she discussed is “Tough Love” which is about corporal punishment. If you think that it won’t do much harm to your kids, then you are wrong. Spanking, kicking, rap of knuckles, etc. to a child’s tender body is traumatic and detrimental that could cause long lasting effects.

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Too much physical punishment especially in young children can cause extreme anger growing up. This anger is then later on expressed as either passive or active aggressive behavior that manifest either towards the one administering the punishment or towards others in the environment. Effects could be:

•Resentment of authority
•Defiance
•Rebellion
•Disconnection
•Disassociation
•Violent behavior towards family or peers
•Bullying
•Displacement to internet most especially on violent games

Sometimes you may think that spanking is effective because your children follow what you say. The real reason behind it is the fear they have for you and not the understanding of why a particular thing should not be done or why a certain behavior must be stopped. Corporal punishment is the worst and least effective way of disciplining your children so stop it before you’ll be sorry.