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NO Dear

Author RosselPosted on 3 Comments

Before I got married, my Mom said that I should stand by my spouse no matter what. She is right and I agree with her 100 percent but this does not mean I would say YES all the time. I am my own person and so is Rhonnel. We both have our own minds, likes and dislikes and we do not hesitate to say NO when…

•We are too tired for a very romantic night
•One wants to watch a movie and the other one does not want to
•One wants to buy a thing and the other one knows that we cannot afford it
•I am tagging Rhonnel along the wet market (he hates the smell)
•I am tagging him on crowded places like Divisoria
•He wants to buy a motorcycle
…and so many more NOs depending on our moods, ehehe.
Many people find it hard to say NO most especially to their spouses. Just be frank and use sympathetic but firm tones like, “I am sorry but I cannot…”, but do not be over apologetic. Do not give the person false hopes too by saying, “Let me think about it then I will get back to you” if you know that you will not change your mind anymore. The person will keep on bugging you and I tell you it could be very annoying.
On the other hand, if your spouse says NO, do not over react or get pouty. Most of the time, he or she has his/her reasons. It would be better if you will talk about it and listen to his/her reasons. When one or both of you are not listening to each other and cannot take NO Dear for an answer, then you have a problem in your marriage.
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What We Want from Each Other

Author RosselPosted on 12 Comments
I missed CCs theme last week. Not just CC but other memes as well. I got so busy cleaning the house. It was only then that I realized that blogging consumes most of my time. To all the hosts of these memes, I will make it up this week guys and to begin with, here is my entry for CCs theme, “what do we want from each other”.
What do I want from Rhonnel? Hmmm…let me think. I want Rhonnel to let me massage him when he is tired. I always love to massage him but he always refuses. I do not know why. Maybe because my massages are not good enough or he just does not want me to get tired. Other than this, I want him just the way he is “medyo suplado pero maginoo”. Rhonnel does not speak much in front of the people he does not know very well, but if you are his friend, you will never have a dull moment with him. He has great sense of humor and never run out of jokes. He is hard working and can be very generous and he loves to help the lesser fortunate who deserves his help. He is a true friend, a caring son, a dependable brother, a loving father and a loyal husband.
What he wants from me? Let me guess. I think he wants me to be quiet sometimes. Yes, I talk too much and I know it irritates him when he thinks or doing something. He cannot focus because of my talkativeness. Don’t get me wrong. I don’t nag, medyo makuwento lang. He wants me to be sexy all the time, wearing my spaghetti strap blouses and my short shorts exposing my big thighs…ehehe. One thing I am sure is he wants me to limit my blogging time at night and sleep early every night which is really hard to do.
What do you want from your partner? If there is a tension in your relationship, to mull over this question can be very helpful. Sometimes what you want is so obvious. It is just that your partner is too insensitive to notice or know. Do not be afraid to ask for it. Knowing each others’ needs might be the start of a new, gentler relationship.
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Sensitivity and Marriage

Author RosselPosted on 8 Comments

Am I sensitive? I must admit I was overly sensitive and kind of paranoid. Rhonnel can attest to that. Well, I was young then and immature. But as the years passed by and as I mature, I have learned how to be open-minded and view things positively to the extent I think that it made me numb. Lol! I have changed a lot. I do not easily get hurt even by the words or actions that you think might hurt or offend others. If Rhonnel thinks I am wrong, he can tell it straight to me; he can correct my grammar, tell me that I am gaining weight, if my cooking is not good, without me being hurt. I am taking them positively; that he just wants to improve me.

Is he sensitive? Not a bit. He is twice as numb as me. Lol! I haven’t seen him got annoyed with my “kakulitan” or tantrums. But he is sensitive enough to my feelings and needs. He knows if I am sad or not feeling very well. He knows if I need some massage or if I want…..and so am I.

Paying attention to our partner’s feelings and understanding his/her moods is very important. Being sensitive to each others feelings and needs is a big help for the marriage to last. But sensitivity in a negative way, can ruin a beautiful relationship.

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A Movie to Watch with Your Partner

Author RosselPosted on 14 Comments
What movie can I recommend to watch with your boyfriend or husband? Men hate romantic movies, right? Sorry for generalizing but most men I know do including my husband. But men love comedy films as much as they love action and some love sci-fi so I would recommend a romantic, sci-fi yet funny movie, the “Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind”. This is about a couple, Joel Barish (Jim Carrey) and Clementine Kruczynski Kate Winslet), who undergo procedure to erase each other from their memories when their relationship turns sour, but it is only through the process of loss that they discover what they had to begin with.There is a nice blend of romance for the ladies and comedy for the guys in this film. Both funny and touchingly romantic making it a perfect date movie. This is one of the few movies where everything is excellent. One of the best indeed and I highly recommend it. If you haven’t seen this movie, watch it and it will eternally shine in your mind.

“When you try to forget the pain, be it a person or an experience, 
you forget all the good that came with it.” 
~ nikalbo ~
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I Like This, He Likes That

Author RosselPosted on 5 Comments

Rhonnel and I are lucky that we are compatible in many things. We do not just have the same values and beliefs but we almost have the same interests, likes and dislikes. These are the reasons why there is very good understanding and chemistry between us.

We are both homebody and we both love movies. We spend our weekends most of the time by just watching movies at home. No one is complaining because we both like it.

Even in movies, we like the same genres, action and comedy. I like romance sometimes (depends on the storyline and cast) but he does not like it.

We both hate window shopping. We would rather stay home when we do not have money for shopping. We only go to the mall when we have something to buy, if we want to eat something or when RJ wants to play in the arcade.

He loves to eat and I love to cook. We both love exploring food. We both like salads (any kind), lechon kawali, sisig, foods cooked in coconut milk. In other words we have compatible taste buds too except for the fish. He likes tilapia while I do not like it. I love “tulingan” or “tambakol” (mackerels) cooked in coconut milk but he hates it. He finds it so slimy and fishy. Is there any fish that is not fishy? Hmmmp.

We both like to read, only he has time to do it and I don’t. He likes World War II books and I like detective stories and romance sometimes (depends on the author).

We both like songs of Nina, Barry Manilow, Bee Gees, The Coors. He likes Freestyle and Neocolors. I like Side A (ay, nahahalata edad namin!)We like helping others but dislike people who are taking advantage of our kindness or befriending us for benefits.
He likes beer…I like beer.
He hates gossips…I hate gossips.
He loves basketball…I am not into any sports.
I love to draw and sketch…He just like to draw stick people…nyahaha!
Each partner would have different interests and hobbies. This is just normal. What important is your ability to relate to the person you are with. Well, you don’t need to do what he does or vice versa. Just respect each others’ interests and beliefs and I am sure, you will be together forever.