Before I got married, my Mom said that I should stand by my spouse no matter what. She is right and I agree with her 100 percent but this does not mean I would say YES all the time. I am my own person and so is Rhonnel. We both have our own minds, likes and dislikes and we do not hesitate to say NO when…
Am I sensitive? I must admit I was overly sensitive and kind of paranoid. Rhonnel can attest to that. Well, I was young then and immature. But as the years passed by and as I mature, I have learned how to be open-minded and view things positively to the extent I think that it made me numb. Lol! I have changed a lot. I do not easily get hurt even by the words or actions that you think might hurt or offend others. If Rhonnel thinks I am wrong, he can tell it straight to me; he can correct my grammar, tell me that I am gaining weight, if my cooking is not good, without me being hurt. I am taking them positively; that he just wants to improve me.
Is he sensitive? Not a bit. He is twice as numb as me. Lol! I haven’t seen him got annoyed with my “kakulitan” or tantrums. But he is sensitive enough to my feelings and needs. He knows if I am sad or not feeling very well. He knows if I need some massage or if I want…..and so am I.
Paying attention to our partner’s feelings and understanding his/her moods is very important. Being sensitive to each others feelings and needs is a big help for the marriage to last. But sensitivity in a negative way, can ruin a beautiful relationship.
Rhonnel and I are lucky that we are compatible in many things. We do not just have the same values and beliefs but we almost have the same interests, likes and dislikes. These are the reasons why there is very good understanding and chemistry between us.
We are both homebody and we both love movies. We spend our weekends most of the time by just watching movies at home. No one is complaining because we both like it.
Even in movies, we like the same genres, action and comedy. I like romance sometimes (depends on the storyline and cast) but he does not like it.
We both hate window shopping. We would rather stay home when we do not have money for shopping. We only go to the mall when we have something to buy, if we want to eat something or when RJ wants to play in the arcade.
He loves to eat and I love to cook. We both love exploring food. We both like salads (any kind), lechon kawali, sisig, foods cooked in coconut milk. In other words we have compatible taste buds too except for the fish. He likes tilapia while I do not like it. I love “tulingan” or “tambakol” (mackerels) cooked in coconut milk but he hates it. He finds it so slimy and fishy. Is there any fish that is not fishy? Hmmmp.
We both like to read, only he has time to do it and I don’t. He likes World War II books and I like detective stories and romance sometimes (depends on the author).