The Loner

It was year 1995 when I had my training as a transcriber in a telecommunications company. The training was held for 5 days in UP Diliman. On the very first day, this guy caught my attention. He was a trainee too. A loner I thought for he was not talking to anyone of us. He just talked if he had to ask or answer questions. Lunch time came and the loner guy ate alone. I was so intrigued by this tall, dark man. Is he really a loner or just snob? Those were the same scenarios and questions everyday until the training was over.

First day in the office. Oh, there was the guy again. So he passed the training like me. Finally I saw him smiled. From that day on, we became “barkadas”. We were together everyday; eating lunch, going home, drinking with friends. Until a common friend told me that he has a crush on me. He courted me, I answered him, were sweethearts for three years and finally got married October 30, 1999. Yes, that tall dark guy is now my husband.

Rhonnel is not a loner neither a snob. He said he was just testing the waters that is why he was so silent. And his first impression of me? Smart and “kalog” (can anyone translate this in English). Until now, there are times that we are reminiscing together and he is asking me if I too had a crush on him. My answer is always “none” but I think the first time this loner caught my attention I already fell in love with him.


My Dream Man

I was obsessed with Mr. Richard Gomez when I was in high school. I even cut out his pictures from the magazines and put them under my pillow, hoping that he will dream of me. How could he? He didn’t even know me. I was so obsessed with him head over heels that I was not thinking straight. So when I finally woke up from a very deep slumber and learned to accept the truth that I can not have him, ehehe, I was dreaming of someone who is closest to his features, someone who is “tall, dark and handsome” with some other traits on my comprehensive list; romantic, intelligent, rich (must have big house and hot car).Well, that was 25 years ago. As the years passed, my romantic idea that the absolute perfect guy is out there changed. My priorities started to shift and so did my “must haves”. I started to dream of marrying someone who is loving, understanding and will appreciate the person I am. And so our good Lord answered my prayers and gave me Rhonnel.

Did I marry my dream man? My answer is “NO” if I will base it on my Mr. Right during my teen years and a big “YES” if I will base it on my Mr. Right when I was already matured. Rhonnel may not be tall and hunk (yes, he is dark, lol!), but he is very loving, understanding and accepted me for who I am. He gets along with my family very well, we share the same values and ideals, he makes me feel very special, he is romantic, a loving husband and a great father. Rhonnel may not be perfect but he has most of the traits that every woman is dreaming of.

Through Thick and Thin

We were already dating when Rhonnel got our house through Pag-Ibig. The first time we visited the place, it was still undeveloped, only roads there. We met our agents to choose the lot where we want our house to be built. It was an exciting experience and from then on, we visit the place whenever we have the time.Our house is a row house with just four walls, no ceiling, no terrace and no laundry area then. We had the ceiling and the laundry area fixed and had the kitchen moved just right beside the laundry area before we moved in year 2000. We were so excited to move in even the house paint was plain white and the kitchen area was untiled with no kitchen cabinets. May be one of the reasons why God didn’t give us RJ so soon is for us to save money for the house renovation. So before RJ came, we already have terrace, bedroom, tiled kitchen area and newly painted house.

Would you believe we only had P2,000 ($46) when we moved in? We spent quite big on our wedding for we were expecting to receive cash gifts but instead we received kitchen wares, appliances and furnitures and P12,000 ($266). We were thankful though because we have a complete kitchen and bedroom and some money for our honeymoon.

And because of Meralco’s slow processing or should I say poor service, we moved to our house without electricity. Thanks to our good neighbor, Ate Ellen (may she rest in peace), for allowing us to plug our extensions to them. We didn’t have television too so Rhonnel is watching basketball outside our house and through ate Ellen’s door which they were leaving open when Rhonnel is watching. So the fist appliance we bought is the television which we placed on top of a small side table because we had no TV rack. My in-laws gave us a new refrigerator as a wedding gift but it may be somehow bumped and got broken when we were moving. The company pulled it out and while we were waiting for the replacement, we were buying ice from the store for our cold water. Whew! What a not so good experience for a newly wed huh?

This house witnessed all our ups and downs as a couple. We may not be rich but I can say that we are living a comfortable life now. Thanks to my hardworking hubby. Through our perseverance and hard work and course God’s guidance and help, we were able to survive with flying colors and will be together in our so called home through thick and thin.

First Picture Together

It was 1995 when I met Rhonnel on a training. We both passed the training and became office mates then became good friends. We enjoyed our first company outing experience together with our friends (I wonder where they are now) held in Calatagan, Batangas. I didn’t have the slightest hunch that we are going to be sweethearts.


Rhonnel, Angie, Oday, Me and Annamel (from left to right)

It was also the time that we had our first picture together. Ooops, don’t be fooled by our poses. We are not sweethearts here yet. I was still in the process of weighing things and assessing my feelings for him. But Rhonnel is so patient…patient enough to court me in 8 long months. Yup, that’s how long before he got my sweet “Yes”, but it’s worth the long wait.