What We Want from Each Other

I missed CCs theme last week. Not just CC but other memes as well. I got so busy cleaning the house. It was only then that I realized that blogging consumes most of my time. To all the hosts of these memes, I will make it up this week guys and to begin with, here is my entry for CCs theme, “what do we want from each other”.
What do I want from Rhonnel? Hmmm…let me think. I want Rhonnel to let me massage him when he is tired. I always love to massage him but he always refuses. I do not know why. Maybe because my massages are not good enough or he just does not want me to get tired. Other than this, I want him just the way he is “medyo suplado pero maginoo”. Rhonnel does not speak much in front of the people he does not know very well, but if you are his friend, you will never have a dull moment with him. He has great sense of humor and never run out of jokes. He is hard working and can be very generous and he loves to help the lesser fortunate who deserves his help. He is a true friend, a caring son, a dependable brother, a loving father and a loyal husband.
What he wants from me? Let me guess. I think he wants me to be quiet sometimes. Yes, I talk too much and I know it irritates him when he thinks or doing something. He cannot focus because of my talkativeness. Don’t get me wrong. I don’t nag, medyo makuwento lang. He wants me to be sexy all the time, wearing my spaghetti strap blouses and my short shorts exposing my big thighs…ehehe. One thing I am sure is he wants me to limit my blogging time at night and sleep early every night which is really hard to do.
What do you want from your partner? If there is a tension in your relationship, to mull over this question can be very helpful. Sometimes what you want is so obvious. It is just that your partner is too insensitive to notice or know. Do not be afraid to ask for it. Knowing each others’ needs might be the start of a new, gentler relationship.

Sensitivity and Marriage

Am I sensitive? I must admit I was overly sensitive and kind of paranoid. Rhonnel can attest to that. Well, I was young then and immature. But as the years passed by and as I mature, I have learned how to be open-minded and view things positively to the extent I think that it made me numb. Lol! I have changed a lot. I do not easily get hurt even by the words or actions that you think might hurt or offend others. If Rhonnel thinks I am wrong, he can tell it straight to me; he can correct my grammar, tell me that I am gaining weight, if my cooking is not good, without me being hurt. I am taking them positively; that he just wants to improve me.

Is he sensitive? Not a bit. He is twice as numb as me. Lol! I haven’t seen him got annoyed with my “kakulitan” or tantrums. But he is sensitive enough to my feelings and needs. He knows if I am sad or not feeling very well. He knows if I need some massage or if I want…..and so am I.

Paying attention to our partner’s feelings and understanding his/her moods is very important. Being sensitive to each others feelings and needs is a big help for the marriage to last. But sensitivity in a negative way, can ruin a beautiful relationship.