Am I a “YES” Wife

Am I a “YES” wife? Yes I am but only if…

-I know Rhonnel is right

-If his decision will benefit the family

-If what he wants will not harm our marriage

But if what he wants or his decision will affect the family and our marriage, or if it is to interfere with my personal choice, I would always say “NO”. Like other marriages, ours is not so perfect but I am proud to say that we are very good in balancing it. He can go out with his friends and I can go out with my friends without being jealous or suspicious. I can wear whatever I want and he can wear whatever he wants to wear. I can buy what I want and vice versa. I love how our relationship goes, no boss, no powerful than the other. Both have equal rights and we can voice out what are on our minds. Most importantly, we are not pushing each other to do the things we do not want to do.

I know “YES” wives who are being controlled for every small detail by their husbands; the style of the dress to wear, limits on going out, relationships with friends, etc. In fact I have a friend who cannot spend a centavo without letting his husband know. I pity women like them. No, I am not judging them. I am just wondering why they are submitting to all of their husbands desires, fancies and wishes and agree on everything that they do not want to do.

Submission is a natural response from a wife to her husband but not to the extent of losing your freedom of choice, your own identity and self respect. As what Matthew Henry wrote: “The woman was made out of Adam’s side. She was not made out of his head to rule over him, nor out of his feet to be trampled upon by him, but out of his side to be equal with him, under his arm to be protected, and near his heart to be loved.”

Again, communication is the key to all problems. Let your husband know that you do not want his attitude. Make him realize that you as his partner have the same rights as his. If talking to him did not work or makes him more domineering, do not hesitate to undergo marriage counseling.

I just wish that more women would stand up and fight for their rights. We may be do not have balls like men but it does not mean we would be a “YES” wife forever.