Honestly, the first time my daughter had her menstruation last Sunday, I didn’t know what to feel. It’s sort of mixed emotions…excited on her “to be new world” as a preteen, yet sad because she is just 10 and is still supposed to play and enjoy her childhood. I am excited that sooner I’ll have a salon-buddy but sad that my baby is somewhat struggling right now with hormonal and physical changes. I was nervous as hell but I need to be calm. I had to.
A couple of months ago, I have noticed changes in my daughter. She is more conscious of her looks. She combs her hair for I can’t count how many times in a day and can’t go outside without looking first at the mirror. She’s more demure and doesn’t want to wear sleeveles anymore. Her breasts started to develop and tiny hairs are beggining to grow in her pubic area. She also got taller and curvier. I knew then that sooner my daughter will have her monthly period. She learned about these changes on her work education class but still I talked to her before the momentous day arrives to prepare her emotionally and physically. It is because I don’t want her to get this wrong notion that puberty and mestruation are scary.
How to prepare your preteen for menstruation?
- Explain to her the physical changes that will occur in her body. Discuss it as casually as possible to kill the uncomfortable awkwardness.
- Encourage your girl to ask questions related to puberty. Listen openly (avoid interrupting) then answer her honestly. Do some research (if you have to) to provide her good information.
- Discuss not only the physical changes but also the things she needs to do for health and hygienic purposes. I know that you already taught her the basics of good hygiene when she was younger but as her body changes, her personal hygiene changes too.
- Before the big day, help your girl to be familiar with sanitary napkins. You may start by asking her to help you place sanitary napkin on your underwear.
- Your girl also needs to know that she may experience premenstrual syndrome (PMS). She also needs to know that she can get pregnant as soon as she becomes sexually active.
- Keep the communication open. The more you listen, the more your child will trust you. It will be easier for her to talk directly to you.
Your girl’s questions might be the same questions you had when you’re her age so answer all her questions truthfully. If you don’t know the answer, finding it together can be a good bonding too.