I Am a Winner

♪ ♫ ♪ It’s a beautiful day
Don’t let it get away
It’s a beautiful day ♫ ♪♫

So what made me sing today? It’s the email that I received this morning.

Yey! I won a Jennifer Ouellette headband from Divine Caraecle’s  giveaway. For a person who was not born very lucky when it comes to joining contests and giveaways, this is a biiig thing and it really made my day. To you Sis Divine, maraming salamat!

Family Bonding Through Family Fun Activities

My family is very active, busy one. Of course, I am busy with the household chores and online job, hubby is busy with his office works while our daughter is busy with her studies.  But even though how busy we are we make sure that we are living a happy, healthy and fulfilling life. By “fulfilling life” I doesn’t mean materially but rather emotionally. My family build up emotional ties through family bonding. We do things together and enjoy life’s great experiences together.

indoor flow-rider

There are many ways to share family time such as picnicking at the park, going to the museums or zoos, joining community activities together, etc. But my family’s most favorite of them all is out of town vacations. Why? It is because vacation does not only foster bonding and provides my family with rest and relaxation…it also builds beautiful memories. Not to mention that it is fun! Fun! Fun!

mini croquet

The next time my family goes on vacation, we want to have a big fun…as big as the family fun in Utah. We want to experience the flow riding, crossing the swaying rope bridges, playing croquet, cruising and other fun family activities. Because of these activities, any family heading to Utah won’t have difficulty in finding loads of fun things to do. It is good to know that there is a resort that provides a remarkable and unparalleled experience. The whole family can bond and learn from each other while staying in a clean and wholesome environment.

Don’t get me wrong. I am not suggesting that out of town vacation is the best family bonding. It doesn’t matter whether it is a grand vacation or just doing the house work together, what is important is your family spends time together meaningfully.

Bullying Information for Parents and Teachers

Every year, before the regular classes start, parents’ orientation is being conducted in RJ’s school. This is to introduce the new parents to the school resources and programs and to educate them about the school policies and regulations. School admins and teachers also introduce themselves and establish rapports with parents. RJ is with their school for 4 years so I already know (by heart) all their rules and programs that was why I didn’t attend for the last 2 years. But because of the new educational system in the country which is the K12, I decided to attend the orientation this time and I am glad that I did, not just because of the K12 but also because of their anti-bullying campaign. I am glad that RJ’s school is one of those schools that support the Anti-Bullying Act of 2012 H. No.5496 to stop student bullying, harassment and intimidation.

“An act requiring all elementary and secondary schools to adopt policies
to prevent and address the acts of bullying in their institutions.”

What is bullying?

“Bullying is when someone (or a group of people) with more power than you,
repeatedly and intentionally uses negative words and/or actions against you,
which causes you distress and risks your well being.”

According to the 2010 Bullying Statistics in the Philippines…

  • 7 out of 10 students in Grades IV to VI and high schools and 4 out of 10 in Grades I to III have experienced violence in school.
  • One in 7 students in Kinder through high school is either a bully or has been a victim of bullying.
  • One out of 10 students drops out or changes schools because of repeated bullying.

Why do people bully?

  • To pretend they are tough.
  • To try to get others to like them.
  • To hide their own fears.
  • They copy others who bully.
  • They are unhappy.
  • They don’t like who they are.

How can you differentiate bullying from normal peer conflict/mean behavior?

Normal Peer Conflict/Mean Behavior

  • Equal power
  • Happens occasionally
  • Accidental
  • Not serious
  • Equal emotional reaction
  • Not seeking power
  • Remorse – will take responsibility
  • Effort to solve the problem


  • Imbalance of power
  • Repeated negative actions
  • Intentional
  • Physical or emotional harm
  • Unequal emotional reaction
  • Seeking control/material things
  • No remorse/blames target
  • No effort to solve the problem

Some Contributing Factors associated with Bullying

Family Factors

  • Lack of attention and warmth
  • Modelling of aggressive behavior at home
  • Poor supervision

Individual Factors

  • Active, impulsive personality
  • Lack of empathy for others
  • Craves for attention and approval from others


  • School climate is perceived as uncaring or different
  • Teachers/staff unaware or unclear of bullying definitions or how to respond

How do you know that your child is being bullied?

Emotional Signs

  • Changes in sleep pattern
  • Changes in eating patterns
  • Frequent tears of anger
  • Mood swings

Physical Signs

  • Unexplained bruises, cuts scratches
  • Comes home with missing or damaged belongings
  • Comes home hungry

Behavioral Signs

  • Feels ill in the morning
  • Becomes withdrawn or starts stammering
  • Becomes aggressive and unreasonable
  • Refuses to talk about what is wrong
  • Begins to target siblings

School Signs

  • Doesn’t want to go to school
  • Changes route to school
  • Frightened of walking to school
  • Grades begin to fall
  • Often alone
  • Appears insecure

How to avoid future bullying?

  • Do not let your child bring expensive things or much money to school
  • Don’t allow your child to hang out with friends for long hours
  • Don’t let your child stay in unsupervised areas
  • Tell your child not to walk alone and to avoid places where bullying occurs
Disclaimer: The information here are from the handout given to me by the guidance counselor in school.