Is Having One Child an Advantage

It will be opening of classes in two weeks. We’re done with enrollment, and everything is set; RJ’s bag, shoes, uniform, books and school supplies. It’s depressing though how much a good education costs nowadays. My neighbor said we are lucky to have only one child to send to school and because of that we can afford a good quality education. Sometimes, I want to believe that it is an advantage that RJ is our only child because there are always more for her. But is having one child really an advantage?

There are times RJ is asking for a baby sister because she feels lonely. There are also times she wants to play but she has no playmate so she is bugging me if she can go outside and play with kids in the neighborhood instead. How about when we get older? She will be the only one who will take care of us and shoulder the whole burden of our hospitalization, medicines, etc. We do not want that to happen that is why we got pension plan and will get seniors life insurance.

If only I could have more than one child, I would have as many as I want but due to health reasons, I am afraid I can’t. Life is not always fair. We are still lucky though because there are couples who have no children. Their life must be lonely and I feel for them. We may only have one child but she brings us just as much joy and happiness and for that, we are grateful.

First Grown-Up Learning Experience

Teaching RJ how to tell time was a big step for both of us. It was her first grown-up learning experience and it was my first time to feel how big she has grown. RJ was five when I started making a toy clock out of paper plate, drew numbers on it and attached big hands. I showed her how the hands work, that each time the third hand goes round, it is one minute, that each time the long hand goes round it is one hour and that each time the short hand goes round twice, it is one day. My only purpose then was to test if she is ready to learn the concept of clock and time but she was so amazed and got interested and so we did that everyday for one week.

Until one day, I was asking hubby what time it is when RJ answered while looking at our wall clock. We were all surprised. I was glad that she easily picked up through my effort. Now that she’s eight years old, it’s not so surprising if she can tell the time using watches that are as complicated as the 6-hand chronograph Meister Watches.

Teaching your kids how to tell time may sound as simple as you may think but it is not. But then with your right approach, effort and patience, your kids can learn easily.

A Lesson Learned

When RJ had sore eyes (conjunctivitis), I pitied her so much. It was her first time and it was quite distressing for me. Her eyes were not swollen and there were no yellow sticky discharge but she was so irritated by the scratchy and burning sensation. Both eyes were red all over and I was afraid they might bleed. That’s how red they were. She can barely open them and looked like she needed bushnell rifle scopes to see things clearly even from a short distance. Poor RJ!

When I brought RJ to her pediatrician, the first thing she asked me was, “did you go swimming?” Then I said, “Yes. How did you know?” As per RJ’s pediatrician, there are different causes of conjunctivitis but most kids that were brought to her clinic with conjunctivitis just had swimming this summer from public pools and that’s how they got the virus or bacteria.

I feel like it’s somehow my fault. RJ has goggles to protect her eyes but she didn’t wear it. As her Mom who knows what is best for her, I should insist. It was a lesson learned though. I won’t ever let RJ take the dive without her goggles. It is a swimmer’s essential piece to protect the eyes most especially the kids, not only from viruses and bacteria but from other irritants as well such as salt, chlorine and other chemicals.