My husband is not a gossiper. He by nature is of the silent type and does not mind others’ business. That is why I was surprised one morning when he asked me if nagging is an expression of love. I wasn’t able to answer immediately then I said, “I can’t remember an instance wherein I nagged you.” He was smiling and said, “It’s not you, it’s our neighbor. Maybe nagging is indeed an expression of love because the wife nags the husband in the morning and afternoon snack and if he’s that lucky, even during his midnight snack. Maybe that’s how much she loves him”, hubby said teasingly.
I cannot blame my hubby because the wife nags about just anything from washing of dishes, to repair of vehicle, to laundry, to cooking, to waking up late, to throwing the garbage, to feeding the dog, and more. Mind you, she really has a loud voice and is heard by their neighbors thus, embarrassing the husband.
(courtesy of Google)
A nagger is defined as someone who annoys another by constant scolding, complaining, or arguing. You may not know it but you might turn out just like one. Be conscious on the way you talk to your partner or to any member of the household. It may be nothing to you but to them, you are already nagging and they hate it. Of course, who would love to hear non-stop sermon in a very irritating tone? Why not talk to them in a controlled way even though you are already red with anger? Why not remind them on their chores again and again but in a sweet tone so as not to irritate them? Who knows, they might obey you right off the bat.
Oh, by the way, hubby kissed me and said, “Thanks, Baby for not being a nagger”. Wink!
I do not see our marriage as perfect but we are lucky to always resolve things together before it leads to another, and for that I am grateful. Though I know many friends and some people who went through rough times with their relationships yet ended up happily ever after just like the fairy tales, I am not in the position to share their stories. I am glad that these people trust me so much, that they are confiding their problems with me and seek for my advice. But sometimes it is hard to give advices if you were not in their shoes.
There are numerous things we have zero control over and marriage is one of them. We always say that for the marriage to lasts, it is important to compromise, understand each other or keep the candle burning but they are easier said than done.
Marriage can be tough and emotional sometimes, however, being open, learning to listen, see and interact and giving each other space could help you patch things and be back in each others arms just when you think it is over.
I think I have already posted about my petty quarrel with hubby but not in details. Would you believe that we had this petty quarrel just once in our 11 years of being together? It is because we never stopped communicating and letting each other know what in our minds and how we feel on certain things.
I remember, that quarrel happened a few weeks after we moved to our house. I was so hot-tempered because I was tired from office works and when I got home what welcomed me was a messy place. I had no choice but to clean everything. What pissed me off was, hubby was in the house the whole day because it was his rest day but instead of helping me by de-cluttering, he was just watching his favorite show on TV. Grrrrr! Yes it was his day off. He worked from Monday to Friday so he deserves some rest to recuperate. But how about me, am I not working as well? Am I not getting tired? But instead of telling him how I feel, I was just stomping my feet and making indirect remarks while cleaning the house. He asked me why but I answered nothing yet I continued to stomp my feet. He got annoyed so he left the house without saying anything. I thought I would sleep alone for the first time after we got married but he came back in just a few minutes. He asked if we can talk and so we did. I told him what I feel and vice versa. We embraced, kissed and made up and promised to talk things over before it could lead us to something else. That was our first and last quarrel.
Quarrel helps in keeping the excitement throughout the relationship. That is if you will get back together. Be it a big fight or petty quarrel, getting back together is always a wonderful thing. When you do make up, the kisses, hugs and cuddles are sweeter.