Am I a “YES” Wife

Am I a “YES” wife? Yes I am but only if…

-I know Rhonnel is right

-If his decision will benefit the family

-If what he wants will not harm our marriage

But if what he wants or his decision will affect the family and our marriage, or if it is to interfere with my personal choice, I would always say “NO”. Like other marriages, ours is not so perfect but I am proud to say that we are very good in balancing it. He can go out with his friends and I can go out with my friends without being jealous or suspicious. I can wear whatever I want and he can wear whatever he wants to wear. I can buy what I want and vice versa. I love how our relationship goes, no boss, no powerful than the other. Both have equal rights and we can voice out what are on our minds. Most importantly, we are not pushing each other to do the things we do not want to do.

I know “YES” wives who are being controlled for every small detail by their husbands; the style of the dress to wear, limits on going out, relationships with friends, etc. In fact I have a friend who cannot spend a centavo without letting his husband know. I pity women like them. No, I am not judging them. I am just wondering why they are submitting to all of their husbands desires, fancies and wishes and agree on everything that they do not want to do.

Submission is a natural response from a wife to her husband but not to the extent of losing your freedom of choice, your own identity and self respect. As what Matthew Henry wrote: “The woman was made out of Adam’s side. She was not made out of his head to rule over him, nor out of his feet to be trampled upon by him, but out of his side to be equal with him, under his arm to be protected, and near his heart to be loved.”

Again, communication is the key to all problems. Let your husband know that you do not want his attitude. Make him realize that you as his partner have the same rights as his. If talking to him did not work or makes him more domineering, do not hesitate to undergo marriage counseling.

I just wish that more women would stand up and fight for their rights. We may be do not have balls like men but it does not mean we would be a “YES” wife forever.

Rodliz’s Nest


  1. Halie says:

    You are so right!

    Women should be empowered but not proud.

    Loved and give love.

    Taken care of as much as she takes care of her family.

    I love your entry!

  2. Jona says:

    good balance and communication is essential to the marriage relationship. and it's great to hear that you have that with your hubby 😀

    Yes WIFE
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  3. Vhen says:

    wow, that's a great post! equal rights, true…

    i love it….

    visiting back =)

  4. darly says:

    its difficult to be a "Yes" wife huh, specially since the bible says we have to submit to our hubbies- pero there are times na may difference in opinion, paano na?

    well, like you said, communication and if i may add compromise is the key.

    God bless

  5. Mommy Liz says:

    Great post Rossel. I also know of a wife who cannot even punish or scold her own kid because the hubby won't let her. They only own 1 car so that she cannot go anywhere without him knowing about it. No physical abuse but mental and emotional. I wonder why they are still together. She doesn't give contribution to church, why? she probably doesn't have money on hand. Hay, ano ba yan, nakakainis ang ganon di ba?

    Aba eh talaga namang ka equal natin ang guys, they might be stronger physically, pero sa lahat ng bagay eh pareho lang natin sila. And we can be a YES wife if it's for a good cause di ba??

  6. chubskulit says:

    Kodus to you tokaya, magkaparehas tayo sa aspect na to.

    Korekness about the submission!

    Couples Corner

  7. Junneth says:

    Yes Sis, it is a matter of communication… discussing things lovingly, openly, and honestly… when they loved us as they are commanded by God Ephesians 5:33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband. They will not assert what they want… so we can say yes,but they will evaluate and weigh things first before letting us say yes to it!

  8. Roxxy says:

    they say you have to act how you want to be treated siguro may ganun but women aren't a man's possession now like old

  9. anne says:

    My husband doesn't feel suspicious as well even were miles apart as long as he knows where I am. And though if not, when he calls I always tell him where I am, anyway my constant companion is Mj or Faith. LOL thanks for the drop

  10. Clarissa says:

    Ang pinaka-ayoko is yung parang sinasakal.Ayoko yung halos di na makahinga pag palaging sunod ng sunod sa kagustuhan ng asawa di bah?Pero di maiiwasan na meron pa ring ganyang couples.We can be a yes wives pag talagang nararapat^_^

  11. Soulful says:

    couldn't agree more. we say YES as long as it is for the good of the entire family..

  12. Mel Cole says:

    Oi, naka-limotan ko ata mag-join sa CC this week. Darn, na-busy kasi ako sa Art class. Next week, I will join.

  13. zoan says:

    you are right, dami ko natutunan sa Couples Corner 🙂

    mine is up here :

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