Hubby and I as Parents

While I was pregnant I read many parenting books and magazines for the tips, advices and ideas. I was hoping to be knowledgeable and capable enough as parent before RJ arrives. But being a parent is not as easy as I thought. Yes, I got tips and ideas but it’s not that easy to apply in real life. I think what guided me the most is my motherly instinct.

RJ is a good girl. Aside from being sick sometimes, we didn’t encounter any problem with her. She’s very obedient, respectful and she’s doing great in school. May be this is because we talk to her ever since. But a child as she is, she has these little mistakes sometimes that need to be corrected. Between me and Rhonnel, it is me who punishes RJ the most like giving a light whip on the butt or grounding her for a day or two. I see to it that she can’t go out and play outside whenever she did something wrong. But then Rhonnel was always on the rescue and did the bargaining with me asking if I can lower my sentence in just a day. When I grounded RJ for a week, he asked me to make it just 3 days…sigh. Then we will talk to her after that it is for her own good and profit and she understands. Rhonnel seldom gets mad so I don’t understand why RJ is more afraid of him. She always does things with enthusiasm if it’s for her dad but whenever I ask her to do something I hear “Wait po” most of the time…sigh again.

But then it is me who always give in to RJ’s craves and desires especially on toys that I didn’t get any chance to have when I was a child. She will do something for us though in exchange of these material things like perfect quizzes and high grades. We do not mean and don’t have any intensions of spoiling her. We just want her to feel that we love her.

It’s an advantage that all RJ’s playmates are 3-4 years older than her. This made her to be a little mature than other children of her age. Now that she’s a big girl, the time of speaking in scope of her understanding is finally over. We can talk to her about sensitive issues and can be honest with her. It’s my job to explain to her about girly things like monthly period, pregnancy, etc. It’s Rhonnel’s job to answer queries about sports, technologies, etc. Whenever she needs something, she’ll look for me and when she needs playmate on computer games or other gadgets, she’ll ask for Rhonnel. She does know our expertise…ehehe!

If RJ is sick, we both stay up and check on her but if I am too sleepy and can’t hold on any longer, Rhonnel asks me to sleep and he’s the one who looks after RJ. Yes, we practice co-parenting and shared parenting responsibilities. We both don’t believe that Moms should be the primary caregivers and do the parenting duties alone.


  1. chubskulit says:

    Hi tokaya, thanks for commenting on mine. Yip bawal ang palo dito but I always give them some whenever they are acting up.. Di nga lang pwede sa labas hehehe..

    I am sure that RJ will grow up as a fine young woman because both of you and rhonnel are good people and parents.

    Don't forget to join Nostalgia tomorrow ha.. mwah

  2. Mommy Liz says:

    Kahit pinapalo natin ang ating mga anak it's because they needed it, and they know that. They want to know how far they can go without being punished. Di ako naniniwala sa wag papaluin ang bata, kaya malalaki ang ulo ng mga bata dito sa US kasi di sila pinapalo ng parents nila. We offer slippers here basta nag act up na mga kids namin. Wag lang sa labas ng bahay gaya ng sabi ni Rose.

    RJ is a great kid because of how you raise her. she knows that you are there for her in every step of the way. thanks for joining this week.

  3. tatess says:

    si hubby ,kahit amerikano ,namamalo yon sa lahat ng anak nya(5 boys) kaya naman yung 3 teenager na nasa US mababait na bata.itong 2 n kasama namin,so far alam nila na di sila pwedeng loloko loko sa daddy nila.

  4. Prettymom says:

    Between me and my hubby, ako din yung disciplinarian..

    ako yung madalas na nag i-scold or magspank sa son namin.. hirap kc tumitigas ulo dahil sa pang-i-spoiled ng mga lola. Pero buti na lng sumusunod sya sakin pag sinasaway ko…

    I'm sure RJ deserves to get treated for having those high grades 🙂

  5. anne says:

    sabi nga nila girl being a Mom is really a natural instinct for a woman, but wait if a Dad will become a Mom, when a Mom needs to go to work they really have to learn to make things work thanks for dropping by ha?

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